Sean's TMI Thursdays

Sean from  http://justajeepguydc.blogspot.com suggests TMI Thursdays with questions for various readers to answer and post.  This week ....
SOCIAL MEDIA
Social Media is everywhere and linked to everything - blogs, FaceBook, Twitter, iTunes, Apps for: hooking up, shopping, banking, photo albums, music, and so much more. How plugged are you and how do you feel about it???

1. Mac or PC?
PC, but only because of cost.
2. How plugged in are you and why?
Gay blogs and apps for obvious reasons.  Facebook big time, LinkedIn for the job market, some twitter, but not much.
3. What would do if you were completely unplugged for a month?
I would probably go nuts unless I could find a way to get plugged in physically.
4. Low Self esteem issues aside, if a pic of you turned up on a site like TapThatGuy, Hot or Not or People of Walmart, how would you react?
If it showed up on TapThatGuy, I would be proud and let everyone know about it.  If it was a 'people of Wal*Mart, then I know it would be a fake cause I never go in those cesspools.
5. FaceBook is....
-Fun
-nice to keep in touch
-something that I enjoy seeing but if I miss a few days or a week-I am fine with that
-taken way too seriously by a few
-a good way to find old friends
-a good way to find hot guys sometimes...all g-rated [mostly g-rated]
6. List at least 5 of the social Apps you are on:
Facebook
LinkedIn
Grindr
Growlr
Scruff
Twitter
Jack'd
Silverdaddies 

BONUS
What question did you think of that could have been asked?
Is there a social app that should be developed, but isn't yet?

Sean's TMI Thursday

LOTTO FEVER - WHAT WOULD YOU DO OR NOT DO?
1. FOR YOUR FAMILY
-Tough one.  I really do care about my family.  It is number one on my list of priorities.  I have also learned that when something is freely given, it is sometimes thought by the recipient to be worth what the recipient paid for it...and it was free.  I have seen my brothers and my parents work very hard for what they had, only to give it to other family in need, but the gift was rarely appreciated for what it was, and for the work that went into it.
Therefore, I would have to do a lot of thinking about how to make my family comfortable and treat them well, but make it appreciated also.  I am not sure I can do that alone, so I guess I would seek professional advice from several others on how to dole out what is needed by my family, and do it in a way that was appreciated.
2. FOR YOUR FRIENDS OR AN EX'S
-Friends are next in line, after family.  I don't feel quite the dedication to them.  But, I would like to make them comfortable also.  I would love to start a foundation, of sorts, that loans interest free money to those who want to work for it...kind of like many company IRA's are...matching donations.
Ex's get nothing.  What's the old saying, "If you can't handle the worst of me, you can't have the best of me" or something like that.
3. FOR YOURSELF
- Some dental work that is quasi-optional first.  A personal trainer also.  And a vacation spot in the mountains somewhere, so that I and my friends can ski every winter and return to a nice place with a wood burning fireplace for the evening.  Then, a vacation spot in warm weather too.  Most of my joy comes from seeing others happy, and everything I might do would be done with that in mind.
Oh, yeah...and, anything that Adam Levine asks for.  
4. FOR CHARITY
 -  Lots...most of it actually.  And I don't want my name on anything...just want to make sure the money is used for what is needed most.  I would be making most of these decisions, but would setup a group of my friends to advise me. 
5. FOR REVENGE
-  None.  Besides withholding it from those who don't deserve it. 
6. FOR PURE EVIL (NO BACKING OFF THIS ONE)
-  Couldn't do it.  It's not me.  

Sean's TMI Thursday

Happy THANKSGIVING

1. Do you travel or stay local? Family or Friends? Host or Guest?
 We have done a little of both...when the kids were really small, it was a trip home for a feast with the extended family.  Not so much anymore, and with all of the turmoil in my immediate family right now, it is really tough to get things going.  I prefer to host a large gathering of family and any close friends that might need a little love.  Last year was pretty satisfying...I volunteered at a kitchen and spent half the day helping others...worked my can off in the kitchen, but I loved it.  Except for the other dozen or so people working in the kitchen, no one ever saw me there or knew what I had done....and that was OK with me.
This year, a small family gathering at my place, if I can get them here, and then out of town for the weekend.  I still get to fix a scratch apple pie, but I'm skipping the pumpkin pie this year for a chocolate cream pie.
2. Parade: Love it? Leave it? Never let it go?
The parade was always a lot of fun, especially with the kids.  Last year, there were a couple of band students from the High School in the Macy's band and that made it exciting too.  This year, my grandson will be here and I will make sure he watches it.
3. Favorite Food?
I like the whole thing.  Turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy is a must, sweet potatoes, brussel sprouts, stuffing, and several desserts.
4. Favorite holiday movie or do you watch football?
Football.
5. If you do holiday decorations, for which holiday and when?
Decorate only for Christmas...start around now and take them down shortly after Christmas.
6. Black Friday. Thoughts? Feelings? Soapbox?
Hate it.  Leave me out.  Never go, never will.  You'll see me Christmas shopping along side Loki in mid to late December.

Bonus
People traditionally give thanks on Thanksgiving. What are you thankful for?
 Health.  
The last few years have been very difficult, and I am unsure about the next few as well.  I am not comfortable without a plan, and there is none right now.  But, I am closer to one of my sons now than I have ever been, and I am thankful for that.  My grandson has potential, and I want to help him reach that potential.  But, I have to find a way to resolve my inner conflict ,and get happy with myself. 

An update

It's been a while since I added anything of any consequence to the blog...except, of course, for Sean's TMI Thursday responses.  I have been trying to understand myself better, to figure out what I really want.  I suppose, at my age, it's about time. 

After several months of just hooking up with whoever was around (to a degree...although I did use some discretion), I have realized that those hookups are really not very satisfying.  Yeah, it's fun to get off, but certainly nothing to be proud of. 

Plus, I found someone I really like.  It may or may not work out with him, but, regardless, I already like myself better and feel less like a slut.  I have always been one to commit to something, whether that is an idea, a candidate, a gal, and why should a guy be any different.  If this works out, I will be out of the market.  I really want that....want someone I trust who trusts me.  I hope to always want to look, but I won't be touching if we agree on that. 

Wish me luck.

My other issue is what to do about my family and friends.  I'm not out to any of them.  I don't want to live like that any more, but, frankly, I'm concerned about the reaction.  Truthfully, I have a number of other personal issues in my family that also affect what happens, but it would not be fair to my family members to discuss those here. 







As of now, my new BF and I have had a few dates, and spent a lot of time on IM and the phone.  I won't be talking about our sexcapades on here or anywhere because I am too traditional for that.  We have a date on Friday in DC...he is visiting friends there, and invited me to join him.  I really want to do that.  It will be fun. 

Later...

TMI Answers

I'M NOT GETTING OLDER...I'M GETTING BETTER


Sean from http://justajeepguydc.blogspot.com/ has been doing TMI Thursday where he asks questions for his readers to answer in comments, or in their own blog.  For this week....  

1. When did you first know you were an adult?

When my son was born.  It really set in then...of course there have been numerous times when I still don't act like it.

2. Where were you when you first thought, "I'm old!"

It first hit me after I was separated from my wife and started to look for someone for comfort.  I suddenly realized that no one my age held any interest for me.  And, likewise, assumed they all felt the same way.  I soon learned that there are a lot of younger men who like older guys.  It's a whole culture.  Thankfully.

3. What was your best year?

• This is a tough one.  I like to think that it is yet to come.  But if I had to pick, it would be 1986. Had a ton of fun, lots of great friends, learned to snow ski and had a blast, and met someone I really liked a lot.

4. Have you become your parents?

Sometimes I have, but not exactly. 

5. Gray hair:

 - Is it sexy?  Of course it is...on the right package.

- How much do you have and where? Way more than I like to admit to.  I guess I can say I still have some dark hair.

          - Where is the best or worst place you have it? The beard, for sure.

Bonus
How is sex different now?

Sex is great, actually much better than it ever was.  But now, it's not just an orgasm, but a whole event.  The orgasm is just a bit of icing at the end. 

Get out the hanky

Sean's TMI Thursdays

STOP AND COUNT
1. the # of homes you have lived in the: Longest? Best? Worst?

The "family" home that I lived in took me until I was 18.  That was the longest....the family then moved, with me, about 3 miles away, but still close to everything I knew.  My brother had to change High schools, but it was  not an issue for me.  I then lived in a variety of places during college...I really don't count those.  Then it was 7 apartments in 10+ years until I bought my first home.  It was the best deal I ever made in real estate.  Bought really low and sold high.  It was 5 'family' homes in 25 years then moving for the job.  And now, a 'single' family home for me.  So, not too many, but enough.  The Best was my childhood home.  Not sure if it was the home or the childhood that I miss.  The worst was one of the many apartments.  They all seemed so alike. 

2. the # of cars you had: the best?

My first car was a 1967 Volkswagen Beetle.  It was the most fun.  The clutch cable came unhooked during my first few years, and I drove it for several months without one.  It was fun trying to explain to my dates why I had to turn the car off at red lights.  Then, after getting a real job, I had an Oldsmodile Cutlass with T-tops/moon roof...it was dark blue with white leather interior.  A real hot looking car.  Then a Pontiac Grand Prix ... the smaller body style...brown with really nice interior...loved that car...a deer was too attracted to it though.  Then, the usual mini-vans, and other crap cars for the family while I drove a crap company car.  In all, I have probably owned about 15 cars, but the best was the first...that little VW Bug.  Even though it scalded your ankles and left the rest of your body freezing in winter.  

3. the approximate # of sexual encounters you have had.

I was kind of a late bloomer too...first one was at age 18 or so...lots of kissing and fondling before then, but nothing else.  However, once I got started, I made up for lost time.  I once counted, at about age 25, and I had fucked over 40 women and a few men by then.  I'm sure I am in triple digits by now.  The last year has been another 'slut phase' as one buddy calls it.  Probably 30 or 40 either anal or oral sex.  I'm not particularly proud of that, but it is what it is.  However, during my marriage, I was monogamous.   

4. the # of siblings you have. Your #?

I am number 2 of 4...older brother, younger brother and sister...so I am truly that middle child and have all of the baggage that goes with 'middle child syndrome'. And, if you don't know what this is, read about it.  http://middlechildpersonality.com/middle-child-syndrome/

5. the # of careers you have had: Best? Worst?

I have only had one career, not counting a few jobs during college...Management.  And, even counting the jobs in college, I have only worked for 5 companies.  The names of them changed as they were bought out by others, but only really those 5 companies.  One was a small, single store company during college, the others were large national or regional companies.  I liked them all for a time, and didn't like them at some specific times.  I never had to do the McDonalds type job...the 'lowest' was a convenience store clerk, but it wasn't bad...I had great hours. 

6. the # of music albums you have. (all formats combined)

I have never been a music collector or very good at knowing all the artists.  I probably only have ever bought about 200 albums/CDs/Cassettes/iPhone.

7. the # of operations you have had.

Major auto accident caused 6 major operations over a month.  An industrial accident broke my radius and ulna [2 operations].  

Bonus
the # of significant others you have been in love with.

WOW, Sean.  This is a tough one.  You described this as being questions that are difficult to answer, revealing, and embarrassing, and these are.  It is very difficult for me to answer because I am not really sure what being in love really means.  I am going with 4...and two of them hurt me very badly.  I have forgiven one, but not the other.  The other two are guys...one has no clue that I feel so close to him [I secretly think he might, but he will never go there].  The other might have worked out, but I was not ready for that in my life.