Theo James

I love those British actors with two first names.
Am I the only one who thinks this guy is about as hot as they get? 

 

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Scott2 - part 4

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Surgeon General Dr. Koop dies

Dr. Koop was instrumental in AIDS education

Koop with Hillary in 1996

Scott2 -- Part 3

If you haven't read the preview to this, you should read them first to get up to speed.
Scott...Part 1
Scott...Part 2

It was not as long this time before we connected.  A Saturday night, and I noticed he was online. 

 We had never had more than a few sentences of messaging at one time, and he was really opening up now.

When I had asked what he liked, he told me a number of times that he didn't know.  I found it hard to believe, but finally realized that he really didn't know because he had not done much with guys at all.


Eventually it was clear that he really had no other guy experience at all.

Then he sent me a picture of his hard cock, and said, "You made me that way"
Damn if that doesn't make a guy feel good!!


There is more to this story.

TMI Thursday ... sleeping

Our good friend SEAN over at Just a Jeep Guy does TMI Thursdays.  My answers:

I JUST WANNA GO TO SLEEP:
1. What do you wear to bed?  Nothin....I just take things off.
2. Who or what sleeps with you at night? ... :-( 
3. Do you like a cold room or a hot room?  Cold or cool...makes snuggling more fun.
4. Lots of blankets or just one?  More than one.
5. Do you hog the blankets?  I don't think so, but I'm really not sure.  Anyone want to sleep with me and let me know?
6. What size is your bed and what kind of mattress is it?  It's a Queen size.  LOL.  I'm not sure of the brand, but it is one of medium firmness...not too soft.
7. Do you eat in bed?  Same answer as Cubby.  Patently Queer
8. What kind of sleeper are you?    I used to be a very heavy sleeper, but with kids and getting old, I am a much lighter sleeper these days.  I can hear someone pull in the driveway from 1/4 mile away now.
9. What is under your bed?  Nothing but dust.

BONUS
What won't you do in bed?  When I think of something cute, like Cubby, I'll let you know.

I Never- 15 in Detail

Cubby and I stole the idea from Jim at his blog and started the "I NEVER - 15" list.  First, thanks to everyone for your comments.  I had a few offers to mark things off the list, but there are some I don't want to ever mark off, thank you.  However, there are some I would love to mark off.  Here is the breakdown:
I never ...

1. ...have been handcuffed [by a police official].  And don't really care to be...ever....maybe by a---oh never mind.  That's a whole nother post.
2. ...have had a MMF sexual encounter.  Tough one to decide, but with the right guy [Loki would be fun] I could enjoy this.  Maybe that should be a red because it would have to be the right guy.
3. ...raced in a race car.  Oh yeah....not a whole race, but a few times around the track would be a blast.  I am not even a NASCAR fan, but it still is appealing.  [DC Traffic doesn't count.}
4. ...took a ride in a hot air balloon.  Love to do this...with some great friends.  Maybe we could even do something fun while we are on the ride. ;-))
5. ...had sex in a tent.  I'm open to takers on this one.
6. ...fucked on the beach.  Yep...maybe in a tent, and mark both off.
7. ...been to Maine.  I think I want this one too...I hear Maine is beautiful even if I don't speak the dialect.
8. ...have run a marathon.  I would like to do this, but it is not a burning passion right now.
9. ...killed an animal on purpose (hunting).  Would do it for survival, but not for sport.
10. ...been kissed in a NY gay bar.  I can't wait for this one...
11. ...been surfing.  This one should be whatever color red and green make because I think it would be fun but not a passion...so it ends up red.
12. ...been to Asia.  Believe it or not, this is not a passion of mine either.  Australia, Europe, YES...but no real desire for Asia right now.
13. ...had a circumcision. No thanks.  Never.
14. ...have had a tattoo.  Yeah...someday.
15. ...have met a politician that I liked.  I'm neutral on this too, but at lease one writer knows a likable politician, so I leave this one green.

GOT MY SHIT TOGETHER?

I posted a note on my unhidden, real Facebook page a few weeks back that said, "Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down."   I'm not especially proud to admit it, but that is me all the way.  I  think that posting is the closest I have come to letting people who have known me since childhood understand the real me.  I had few comments on it, but what interested me was that some commented who I didn't expect.  I think it shows that we all have people who care for us but do it silently.

Many years ago, I was in a very serious automobile accident, so severe that I was not expected to live to get to the hospital, then not expected to live the night, then not expected to survive the week.  Well, I am still here.  While it was a very difficult time for me, it was a huge learning experience.  I discovered things about myself that, until then, I hadn't known.  My determination, my refusal to ever give up [stubborn bastard that I am] for example.  However, the most valuable thing that I learned was that there are people who care about me, and they are not the cheerleaders, the 'in your face' guy or gal who wants everyone to know how good they are.  They are the ones who are not struggling to get next to you in the pic, or touting how much they have done to help, or at all obvious.  In fact, most of my friends don't realize they are there either.  I am not a religious person, but when I have needed that extra support, they almost seem like angels who only appear when you truly need them.

A fellow blogger commented to me in a private conversation that he was sure I had my shit together quoting my 20+ years of marriage and raising my kids as proof.  Yeah, raising kids is tough, but I never said I did a good job of it.  I love them more than myself most times, but I have way too many faults to even start counting, and some of them have hurt my kids in ways that I regret.  I am, however, VERY proud that they are generally caring, compassionate people.  It took me a while to get used to the fact that they are their own selves, and not just an extension of me.  Learning that with them also helped me learn that with others, and strive to be less controlling.

I have tried to teach my kids, it isn't important what you know, or what you can do, but that you are trying and moving in the right direction.  

Many of you who read this, and especially those who bear their most personal thoughts in a blog have been tremendously helpful in my personal growth.  Unfortunately, it has sometimes come with personal pain, and sometimes pain to others.  But, I have found that a few tears is sometimes good for a body...it is almost cleansing, to allow us to see things more clearly.  It is clear now that the older I get, the more that I see how unwise I really still am. 

I don't much think I really have my shit together, though.