1. How to act interested without seeming desperate.
2. How to learn GAYDAR.
3. Learn that 'Sure, we should do that sometime' actually means 'No way, bro.'
4. Understand that even though a guy is OUT, he has a problem other OUT guys knowing his first name.
5. Don't take rejection personally.
6. Understand that every interaction has a very slim chance of culminating in anything real.
7. Realize that not every gay man is nice, and not every straight guy is an ass.
8. Remember, when a married guy starts telling you how in love he is with you, he doesn't mean it.
I'm sure you guys can add more than this. How about it?
Men are men.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was in grad school, my slightly older straight female friend, 36, said she would never date a man who had never been married by the time he was 35. She'd only see divorced or widowed men because men single over 35 were going to be single forever.
For gay men, you have to look at the culture. In the generation in front of me, 50-70, most gay men died. If they are still around, they are in relationships or were, came out late (like me) or are not out and never will be (there are exceptions).
It's not easy for anyone at any age.